When life hands you dog crap

Sometimes a bad moment can feel like a personal attack, but it's what we make it mean, that keeps us stuck. 

In this episode I share a blunt analogy that I've been sharing with clients this past week that helps to regulate your emotions, drop the victim loop, and move forward with more ease. 

What I need you to know is this ... this too shall pass ... and when it does, great things are around the next corner.

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Transcript

Fast Intro And The Vibe

SPEAKER_00 0:06

I'm so glad that you're here. You're listening to What the Fuck Did She Just Say? With your host, that's me, Santa Placeley. I'm all about living our best life and finding our zone of brilliance and then removing the resistance so that we can go all in. I say random crazy shit, which is why I called this podcast the way that I did. And I really hate long, drawn-out intros. So let's fucking go. Welcome back to the podcast. Happy Monday. I hope you are having the most incredible week.

Blue Moon Energy And Emotional Purge

SPEAKER_00 0:45

I want to talk to you about something that happened that I noticed that happened with a number of my clients last week. It was sort of bizarre, but the blue moon that happened on May 31st was a doozy. Now, full moons, they come along to sort of like purge everything that isn't serving us. Sometimes that can be extremely difficult to navigate. But what I do know to be true is that when we can navigate it with as much ease as possible, it's like it opens up this portal for magic. It opens up this portal for the most incredible things to happen in our lives. I've seen it so many times. I've experienced it myself. And there's a few tweaks and a few things that will help you to get to that next

The Dog Poop Analogy For Setbacks

SPEAKER_00 1:33

level. So when I was talking to one of my clients last week, she had experienced this situation was which was awful, unfortunate, absolutely. When I checked in on her the next day, she was doing mostly well, but she was struggling with a few lingering thoughts of why did this have to happen, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. So what flew out of my mouth was this analogy. You've stepped in a pile of dog shit. It's not great. You didn't put it there. You just happened to be the one who stepped in it. Let's not look back at the dog. Wonder why the dog did this to you. Wonder why the dog hates you. Wonder why the dog intentionally, purposefully shit in your path. It didn't. Dogs do dog things just like people do people things. Now I didn't want her to roll around in it for too long. I wanted her to make her decision, stand firmly, and move forward. What I did not know is that I would use the same analogy with two other clients of mine within the next few days. So I feel like it was probably an astrological thing that was happening. But when I really thought about it,

Dropping The Story And Victim Loop

SPEAKER_00 2:49

it was such a good example. We make it mean so much. We start to tell a story about what happened to us, and we become victim to that story. And we start to wonder why did I step in the dog shit? Why does the dog hate me? What does the dog think about me for it to do this? I'm always going to step in dog shit. This is just who I am. I am the dog crap stepper. Instead of walking three feet to the lake and washing our flip-flop and our toes off in the lake and then moving on and carrying on with our day, we walk home grumbling, staring at the ground. And then we bring our dirty flip-flop and we start walking around our house. We bring it with us, we talk about it to all of our friends, and we literally we might as well just like keep running at the same pile and jumping in it. And then when we've jumped in it to the point where there's nothing left, we go and search out other dogs or other paths. We convince ourselves this is just who we are. Life is trouble. Life is hard. Oh my gosh, everything is so traumatic. Why can't I get a break? The reason you can't get a break is because you keep thinking about why the dog did this to you. You keep thinking about and looking back at the dog, or you keep looking now for other evidence that all dogs hate you. You look for evidence that you deserved to step in the dog crab. Dogs do dog things and people do people things.

Regulate Your System And Move Forward

SPEAKER_00 4:26

What's incredible about this is that in every single time when we can navigate that emotion with system regulation, when we can stop telling stories about why we can stop imagining what people think about why this happened to us and what story they are telling. When we stop rolling in it and we navigate it with ease, which is what I help my clients with, everything starts to work out after that. Everything starts to just work out. We find more peace, more money, more bliss, more happiness, more true friendships. It's like health, wealth, and happiness. All of it starts to just magically appear.

Other People Think About You Less

SPEAKER_00 5:14

I promise we spend way more time thinking about what someone else is saying or thinking about us than they are, because everyone has their own pile of dog crap. Everyone is going through something, and they're not thinking about us as much as we think that they are. We are the leading lady in our story. Everyone else is a secondary character, but in their story, they are the leading actor and we are secondary. Everything that they do, they're seeing from their eyes, they are not seeing through yours. And as soon as we can start to realize that people just do people things and it doesn't need to mean anything, and we don't need to make it anything, we navigate the emotion without telling the story, that's when

Support, Coaching, And Closing Call

SPEAKER_00 6:03

life gets easier. That's when we become the people that everyone says, how come everything works out for her? How come I step in dog ship? She always never does. Why is it that her life just seems so easy? It becomes easy. Not because we don't have challenges, but it becomes easy because we learn to navigate it with ease. We learn to navigate it with support. And we learn to navigate it without telling the story. When I'm working with clients, this is what we work through. Even when it's business coaching, there's going to be some life challenges that come up. And when we navigate those, we navigate it all. It's all about learning how to manage the piles of dog crap as quickly and easily as possible because we don't have to carry them. We can learn to navigate them with ease. And when you learn that skill, everything becomes possible. Thank you so much for listening. I hope you've had some laughs, maybe some ideas, and that you've been inspired to take some type of action toward the life you've always dreamed of. If you feel so called, I would love it if you would share with your besties. Leave a review down below. I look forward to bringing you along with me, and I will see you in the next episode.