We MADE IT! Day 24 is finally here

In this episode I give you a few hacks to help with boundaries and connecting with your family and friends!

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Chapters

• 0:00 Holiday Mood And Daily Series
• 1:04 Family Roles And Nervous System
• 1:57 Boundary Hack: Close Doors
• 3:34 Softer Lighting For Calm
• 4:39 Create Neutral Zones
• 5:23 Grounding Objects And Plants
• 6:29 Calm Spaces For Guests
• 7:21 Advent Wrap And Sign-Off

Transcript

SPEAKER_00: 0:16

And all about looking at that slide and finding our start of phone and then removing the voice distance so that we can go off. I say random crazy, which is one of the four that I'm and I normally hate long drawn-out intros. So let's fucking go. Welcome back to day 24. It's Christmas Eve. I'm so excited. It feels like I've been waiting. It feels like December's gone really fast because I've been doing these every single day, daily podcasts. And so it's been going fast, but at the same time, it feels like it's been taking forever to get here. I'm so excited for Christmas. I hope you are too. Today, on the 24th, I want to talk about family and boundaries. No matter the age, when you tend to get around your family of origin, it's easy to slip into your role in the family, like who you used to be. It's so easy to go back there. It's just what we do. Family triggers memory, it triggers identity, and we can slip back into old roles. Our nervous system remembers it. It remembers who we used to be, who we were expected to be, and how we survived emotionally. Like, no matter the age, I think when we're around our family of origin, we slip into those roles. And so we can actually use our home to either absorb that or neutralize it. So here are some feng shui boundary hacks for you that you can put into place that help you hold boundaries on who you are, the person that you've come here evolved to be, because that person is amazing. If you've been doing the work like I know you have, you deserve to hold that vibration. So our simple feng shui boundary hack number one close doors on purpose. Open floor plans and everything open and a whole bunch of family is like an emotional soup. So we want to close the doors to bedrooms, to offices, to laundry rooms. It keeps the energy contained and then less overwhelmed. Luckily for me, we have we have a foster puppy here. And so all of our doors are closed as it is, because otherwise we're a little nervous that he's gonna pee on our area rugs. So we have all of our doors closed. But I have to tell you that even though I don't love to open and close all the doors every single day as we're walking through here, it does really feel like we have little pockets of calm. And I do love that, but it it almost allows us to keep that part of ourselves when the doors are closed. It's like it's an intentional way to keep that part of ourselves, keep that boundary. The other thing that you can do is soften the lighting. Harsh lighting is really dysregulating to a nervous system, and it sort of keeps people on edge. So if you've got candles that you would like to use or lamps, turning lamps on instead of the overhead lighting, like no one needs to do brain surgery in the kitchen, you know. Um, our lights in our kitchen are so bright, I swear we could probably have brain surgery in the kitchen. Like, so intentionally turning those off and having softer lighting is a great option. You can also if you have time and you really want to, you can also switch out those sort of cool white bulbs in your lamps to warm white warm white bulbs. And that just it adds this softness to the space and um it allows for softer communication. Number three is you can create neutral zones, so it's an area of the house that is clutter-free or less clutter, it's calm and it's sort of like like a release. It's where people can just kind of go to have like more quiet conversation. I often think of these as like, you know, the houses um where when you walk in the door, there's a sitting area, there's no TV, there's no loud music, there's not it's like a beautiful, calm sitting area. You can use that space if you have one to create sort of a neutral zone that is really calming. Number four is you can put something grounding in those shared spaces. Add some plants, pine cones. You know, I love pine cones, um, some wood, some earth tones. Grounding objects keep emotions from spiraling. And real plants or plant energy is really good energy. I often think, you know, how people say like hug a tree and but it really does. If you have some plants in your space, it is just calming, right? Same as when I often think it would be amazing to work or own a greenhouse because you know, when you walk into the greenhouse, it smells so beautiful, but just the air is different in there, it's just lovely in there. So adding some plants adds that energy. And also similar to that, when I was talking about the Zen den, where if you just need a moment, go to your Zenden. Well, when you have company over, they don't they don't have your Zenden, but you want them to feel good too. You want to have those spaces that just feel calm, where people can go to just recharge themselves. They can either go to the bathroom, and the bathroom might have a beautiful candle or some nice lighting to it where people can just, you know, experience this like nice calm space, but also maybe just have like a little area off to the side where people can grab some water or some snacks or just sit quietly. It's just nervous system regulation, and I think it's an amazing way to create a beautiful holiday. So that is the end of my 24-day advent calendar. I feel like I could probably do another 24 more. I will not. I'm going to give you a break. It is Christmas after all. I hope you have an incredible Christmas. A beautiful new year, but I will be back. Thank you so much for listening. And I'm gonna see you back here after the holidays. Thank you so much for listening. I hope you've had some laughs, maybe some ideas, and that you've been inspired to take some type of action toward the life you've always dropped out. 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