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My name is Sandra. I'm a business coach for women, a feng shui practitioner and a 2x national leadership award winner. In saying all of that though, I feel like I'm just a girl from Saskatchewan, who is put on this earth to inspire you to step into your power ... right fuckin' now.
I think that all too often, we convince ourselves that there is nothing we can do ... that our life "is what it is" and that ONE DAY we might be able to have the life that we dreamed of.
Uhmmmm NO.
That's bullshit.
Sorry ... but it's true. In a split second, you can choose differently. In THIS moment, you can take that courageous step toward the life you desire. It's my job, my gift and my obsession to help you share your sparkle with the world and I'm excited to get started.
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WTF did she just say?
Your 3% Problem: Why You Can't Think Your Way to Change
Ever found yourself saying "I know what to do, I just don't do it"? That frustrating cycle of setting goals only to sabotage yourself later isn't a moral failing—it's a neurological reality.
When we understand how our mind actually works, we discover that conscious effort only controls 3-5% of our daily actions. Meanwhile, our subconscious mind—running on autopilot programming from years of mental rehearsal—controls 95-97% of our behaviors. This explains why you can logically decide to build your business, improve your health, or enhance your relationships, yet find yourself taking contradictory actions without even realizing it.
Drawing from 40 years of personal experience starting with sports psychology in figure skating, this episode reveals why affirmations and vision boards often fail while providing a powerful visualization technique to effectively reprogram your subconscious mind. By engaging multiple senses and emotions in vivid mental rehearsal, you can begin rewiring the automatic patterns that currently run your life. Your brain doesn't distinguish between a real event and one you vividly imagine with emotional intensity—a neurological fact we can leverage for transformation.
Ready to stop fighting yourself and align all aspects of your mind toward your goals? This episode breaks down exactly how to reprogram your "bullshit autopilot" through repetition and emotional engagement. Whether you're struggling with business growth, health changes, or relationship patterns, understanding the three minds—conscious, subconscious, and unconscious—will fundamentally change how you approach personal development.
Join our Powerhouse membership to work deeper on subconscious reprogramming, emotional safety, and identity shifting. Stop relying on willpower alone and learn to harness the incredible power of your subconscious mind for lasting change.
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Hey there, and welcome back to what the fuck did she just say? Today, I want to talk to you about why you can't think your way to change, and it was inspired by a call with a coaching client of mine who she kept saying I know what to do, I just don't fucking do it. And I think that is so much so what we all feel from time to time when we are trying to achieve a goal and we keep self-sabotaging. So I want to talk about a mindset shift, or how we can see this differently, so that we can actually do the dang thing, take the actions and achieve all that we want to. This is the episode that explains why your affirmations might not be working, why your vision board hasn't magically changed your life, why your old patterns keep on showing up.
Speaker 1:First things, first, I want to talk about the three quote unquote minds that all live inside your brain. So the conscious mind is the one that you think is in control. It's logical, it's analytical. This is what you know to be true. This is the thing that is listening to this podcast. This is making your to-do list. This is the one that says I am going to lose 10 pounds in the next three months. This is that person. But here's the kicker it is not controlling the majority of your daily actions. Your conscious mind is literally. I mean they used to say your conscious mind was in control anywhere between 10 to 20% of the time. Most recently, I've heard people say it is in control only three to 5% of the time. If you really think about it, the things that you're consciously aware of is only in charge three to 5% of the time. But it's that, that conscious mind that we're using to attain all of our goals, to force ourself into action. Like, of course we're going to fuck that up right, like, like, of course we're going to fuck that up, right, like, of course. Your conscious mind only processes about 40 bits per second, but guess what? There are millions of bits per second. We can see that our subconscious mind is accepting in millions and millions of bits of information per second and most of it is like we're not even paying attention. So our subconscious mind is flexible and complex and it's running the show. It's automatic behavior that reveals judgments and decisions and emotional reactions and they're triggered outside of that sort of conscious awareness. Your conscious mind is the one you think that it's in control. Your subconscious mind is really the boss. It's the one that's running 90 to 97% of your daily actions and most recently, people are saying 95 to 97% of your daily actions. And so okay, habits, beliefs, emotional patterns this is where your identity lives.
Speaker 1:If you are trying to change your identity, let's say, let's say you decided that you wanted to quit drinking, but you were the girl that was known for having a glass of wine when you're making supper, or always having wine in the fridge for when your friends come over. And then, all of a sudden, you decide you're going to drink, you're going to stop drinking. Well, you're going to have to change that identity. You're going to have to change that subconscious belief of who you are to them, who you are to you. There's so much at play behind the scenes in your subconscious. So your conscious mind goes yeah, I'm not going to drink. And your subconscious mind is the one that's like whoa, what the fuck just happened? Why did I just open that bottle? The subconscious mind was running the show.
Speaker 1:Subconscious mind is, like, has been in control for years and practicing these automatic responses. For years You've been mentally rehearsing anxiety and people pleasing, overworking, playing small. That's when your subconscious is taking effect. That's all the limiting beliefs, that's all the things that say I can't do that, or if I charge too much, people will think that I'm a crook, or you've got to, um, you know, work your ass off to lose even one pound If you're in perimenopause, like it's all of those things that are like those limiting beliefs that are stuck in the back of your mind and you just keep replaying and replaying them, replaying them, and then all of a sudden you're wondering well, why can I decide that I'm going to go to the gym and then I don't go to the gym? My conscious mind is saying I'm going to go to the gym and yet I eat a sandwich. Why? It's because your subconscious mind, all of those things, is running in this automatic freeze. Now your unconscious mind, this one's deeper and you have to think of it. It's like the basement. So trauma, survival, reactions it's really hard to tap into them and it influences how you feel and respond, but it's like super deep.
Speaker 1:So imagine you had, let's say, you have a team and that team has a coach who's running the place, who's yelling from the sidelines. That would be your conscious mind. Now your subconscious mind would be the actual players, the people that are running the game, the quarterback, and the quarterback gets to decide if they still use plays from PeeWee that everybody knows, or do they? Does he call different plays elevated plays? Can he change the freaking game? But the unconscious mind is like a deep culture that is really hard to shift. Maybe it's like negative past, something negative on the team that seems to still be hanging on and no matter what you do, no matter how many changes you make, the team is kind of still has that like negative hold, that energy, and you don't necessarily know why it's still there. But you can't fucking get rid of it.
Speaker 1:We don't really talk about the unconscious mind as much. I focus a lot on the subconscious mind because we want to tap into reprogramming our own fucking brainwashing. Quite frankly, we've got to reprogram all the negative beliefs and all the limiting thoughts that we have so that we can actually take action towards what we want instead of, you know, self-sabotaging. Okay, so you can see, then, that this is why you can't like logic your way out of a belief that your subconscious mind has rehearsed for so many years. Like mindset work, just like trying to talk yourself into something, isn't going to work. This is why when my clients say I know I just need to post, but I'm not. Like I know that I just need to go to the gym, but I'm not. I know that I need to declutter my home, but I'm not Right.
Speaker 1:When we rely on something that's only running the show three to 5% of the time, well, you can see why it's probably not going to win overall. Like you're like just muscling through, but you're literally doing it the hardest way possible. So you can say you want more money. You can say you want more clients. You can say you want more peace, but your subconscious is still programmed to believe that it isn't safe to do that, it's not allowed or is impossible for you. So you're going to self-sabotage it without even realizing it. You can say that you want to. You're going to eat really well all day and then you end up having a pizza pop for breakfast and they, you know uh, I don't know ice cream for supper while you're watching Netflix, like it's.
Speaker 1:It's why we do these things and it doesn't make us bad, but why do we ever shit on ourselves for doing it? And, to be honest, this is why I created the powerhouse membership, because I know that changing your thoughts isn't enough. We have to shift everything. We've got to shift not only your thoughts and how you think about things, but also your emotional state, your environment, your identity, your frequency, your subconscious mind. We've got to reprogram the bullshit autopilot that's holding us back. Reprogram the bullshit autopilot that's holding us back.
Speaker 1:So I do have some very favorite ways of reprogramming this, but the one that I'm going to share actually I have been doing for 40 years and it originated. I don't know where it originated from, but I learned it through my figure skating coach. She was really into sports psychology and she would have us, she would talk to us about how what we visualize happens. And so if we are to believe, like if we have this in our mind, that we're going to go out and compete and we're going to fall on a double axle, and we visualize ourselves and we have this fear that we're going to fall on the double axle, guess what we do? We go out there, we compete, we fall on the double axle, and so what she would have us do is this really simple but powerful mental rehearsal, because your brain doesn't know the difference between a real event and one you vividly imagine, like it's vividly imagined. You just don't want to think about it, um, but you want to feel into it, like really visualize it. And the more you do this, the more you're going to reprogram those subconscious beliefs, because it's like you're telling your subconscious mind oh wait, no, you were wrong. All this time I am reprogramming it through repetition.
Speaker 1:So how you do that, how we would do that, is we would center ourselves, take a couple of deep breaths, close our eyes and just like slow down our breath. Now, for us, we would put on our Walkmans because it was the eighties, put on our Walkmans with our cassette tape and our really staticky music, and stand in the middle of the dressing room with our flip-flops on or runners or whatever, and we would slowly go through our routine, our program, our free skate program, um, and we would just kind of go through the motions like not um, not with like full emphasis with our arms and things, but just like sort of slowly and like very, very like minimally, you know very minimal movement, but we were really in it. We were picturing ourselves doing the perfect program we could picture ourselves. We would start off by imagining gliding out to where we were to start on the ice, feeling the crowd to start on the ice, feeling the crowd, imagining the lights, imagining, like even just you know the cold breath in the air, what we're wearing, how we feel, how the cold feels on our skin, how tight our hair was pulled back. I mean absolutely everything. You imagine being so confident, gliding out and standing there and the crowd going quiet, and imagine all of the people in the crowd, and then the music starts. You hit play on your Walkman, the music starts and you visualize from start to finish, everything going perfectly. You hear the crowd cheering, you feel what it feels like to land the perfect jump and then you know, at the very end, you feel yourself coming off. You imagine the perfect tens and like the more you visualize that, the more your brain and your subconscious mind begins to believe it. And that's what's doing the action. So you can do that whether you're figure skating, or you can do that in business, or you can do that in your perfect dream relationship, anything you want. You can imagine opening up your bank account app and seeing a whole whack of money in your account. Maybe you're in your savings account.
Speaker 1:When you're doing this, you want to feel the emotion, the joy, the freedom, the power. And you want to do it every single day because repetition rewires your subconscious mind. So when you're trying to manifest with your thoughts, you're only accessing such a tiny little bit. So you want to reprogram your subconscious mind, your belief that you can have it, your belief that it's yours, your knowingness that you can achieve this, and you do so with accessing your emotions as well. That is how you rewire and you're going to have to do it over and over and over again.
Speaker 1:And that's where the conscious mind comes in, because the conscious mind is going to have to say, okay, shut up, bitch. We're going to do this subconscious reprogramming today. I hope that that helps you If you want to join us in the powerhouse. We do work a lot on reprogramming the subconscious mind. We create repetition, we do emotional safety we talk about well recently I've been talking about relationships a lot but I also help you get in alignment with your space and sort of shift your identity so that you can go deeper into reprogramming that subconscious mind. I hope you have an amazing day and we will see you back here next time.
