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My name is Sandra. I'm a business coach for women, a feng shui practitioner and a 2x national leadership award winner. In saying all of that though, I feel like I'm just a girl from Saskatchewan, who is put on this earth to inspire you to step into your power ... right fuckin' now.
I think that all too often, we convince ourselves that there is nothing we can do ... that our life "is what it is" and that ONE DAY we might be able to have the life that we dreamed of.
Uhmmmm NO.
That's bullshit.
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WTF did she just say?
The water bottle analogy ... the BEST visual for when you are losing your sh*t
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I'm so glad that you're here. You are listening to what the fuck did she just say with your host? That's me, sandra Priestly. I'm all about living our best life and finding our zone of brilliance and then removing the resistance so that we can go all in. I say random, crazy shit, which is why I called this podcast the way that I did, and I really hate long drawn out intros, so let's fucking go.
Speaker 1:Years ago, I heard someone say that when emotions are high, intelligence is low, and I'm not kidding. I probably have repeated that 3,000 times. I'm sure that I have, whether it's in a coaching session, whether it's me talking to my kids or me talking to myself. It's been something that just stuck with me and I've repeated it numerous, numerous times. I think that it is so common for us to be triggered in some way, feel an emotion and then react in that moment, but we're not acting in a state of clarity or a state of calm where we could act in a way that would be in our best interest. Now what I want you to know is that emotion that you feel, that initial anger or anxiousness or overwhelm or fear, like when we get emotionally worked up by something, we're triggered by something. That emotion is just a real biological, physiological response, and we're not responsible for that initial, that first second, that initial feeling. We're not responsible for it. However, we are responsible in how we respond to it. So we might feel that initial feeling, but then what we do with it is absolutely within our control, and that's what we need to focus on. Here's the thing, though in those moments when we are feeling that emotion, we start to feed it. We feel that emotion for longer, and then we try to make decisions there. We react in a way that is not, maybe, in our best interest and we think we have to fix something right fucking. Now. We get into this state where I describe it as like a cat that's mad, right, ears slicked back, eyes, laser focused on something to attack, and we think we have to fix something now. So we get an email that escalates our emotion, and right away we've got the fingers on the email and we're going to send off something, just shit on that person. Someone says something to us in the moment, and it is like attack, attack, attack, and too often we choose our response in that moment when we're still emotionally worked up. But when emotions are high, intelligence is low. So we need to make sure that we settle the emotions down, we take power in the pause, we wait until we're emotionally regulated, our system, our nervous system is regulated, and then we can choose what we do from there. Today I was in a breathwork session and the facilitator gave an example which I'm going to slightly shift because it makes more sense in my brain, but it was so damn good I had to text my daughter and tell her right away.
Speaker 1:So imagine when you get emotionally worked up the next time. I want you to see this visual. When you get emotionally worked up, it is like you have a clear water bottle filled with sand and mostly water. When you're worked up like that, when you're worked up like that, something has shaken your water bottle. The more you shake it, the more you feed that, the more cloudy the water gets. You can't see a damn thing. And in those moments we're trying to make decisions. But here's the truth You're not seeing clearly, you cannot see clearly and because your water bottle has been shaken like that, you are not able to make good, empowered decisions.
Speaker 1:In that moment, when emotions are high, it is absolutely like that shaken up water bottle.
Speaker 1:Everything is swirling around, and no amount of thinking, overanalyzing or obsessing is going to give you clarity.
Speaker 1:The only thing that works is letting the sand settle.
Speaker 1:So that means stepping away, pausing, breathing. You cannot make decisions in this place because it's a place of panic or stress, anxiety, fear. You cannot make decisions or take any actions in those moments. But once the sand settles, once your nervous system calms down, that's when the answers come. That's when you actually know what to do, instead of acting from fear or anger, frustration, et cetera.
Speaker 1:So the next time you're feeling like your emotions are taking over, remember you're just a shaken up bottle of sand and water. Give yourself a minute, let it settle. Water, give yourself a minute, let it settle. Now you can make a decision from a place of peace and grace and not from a place of chaos. Breathe, let it settle, and I'll see you back here tomorrow. Thank you so much for listening. I hope you've had some laughs, maybe some ideas, and that you've been inspired to take some type of action toward the life you've always dreamed of. If you feel so called, I would love it if you would share with your besties and leave a review down below. I look forward to bringing you along on this journey and I will see you in the next episode.
