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Oh my goshhhhhhhhhh welcome to my podcast!!! I'm so excited that you're here and I am honoured that you choose to place ME in your AirPods every week!!!
Here's a bit about me:
My name is Sandra. I'm a business coach for women, a feng shui practitioner and a 2x national leadership award winner. In saying all of that though, I feel like I'm just a girl from Saskatchewan, who is put on this earth to inspire you to step into your power ... right fuckin' now.
I think that all too often, we convince ourselves that there is nothing we can do ... that our life "is what it is" and that ONE DAY we might be able to have the life that we dreamed of.
Uhmmmm NO.
That's bullshit.
Sorry ... but it's true. In a split second, you can choose differently. In THIS moment, you can take that courageous step toward the life you desire. It's my job, my gift and my obsession to help you share your sparkle with the world and I'm excited to get started.
You got this. Let's go.
Sandra
WTF did she just say?
Real Reason or Comfortable Lie: Let's chat about Self-Sabotage
Self-sabotage often keeps us from pursuing our dreams and aspirations. In exploring the roots and effects of self-sabotage, we provide actionable strategies to recognize and overcome these barriers to personal success.
• Defining self-sabotage and its common manifestations
• Understanding the psychological roots of self-sabotaging behaviors
• The significance of awareness in tackling procrastination
• Calls to action: challenge excuses and act despite fears
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I'm so glad that you're here. You are listening to what the fuck did she just say with your host? That's me, sandra Priestly. I'm all about living our best life and finding our zone of brilliance and then removing the resistance so that we can go all in. I say random, crazy shit, which is why I called this podcast the way that I did, and I really hate long drawn out intros, so let's fucking go All right.
Speaker 1:I want to talk about self-sabotage a little bit, because I have literally been. I think I've had three conversations just in the last two days where women were either coming to me saying I'm self-sabotaging and I need to stop. I don't know what to do here. Or I have this big, huge goal and I don't know why. But just as soon as I decide to take on this task, all of a sudden my life goes to shit.
Speaker 1:I heard one time that self-sabotage was like an overprotective mom who won't let you go play outside because you might get hurt, and that kind of safety is like that's the biggest risk, right, because it keeps you from living the life that you want. The minute you try to step outside of your comfort zone, your brain throws up these red flags. What if this doesn't work? What if people think I'm ridiculous? What if I go all in and I still fucking fail? Then I'm a failure right. Then that means that I'm not good enough. What if I actually succeed and then I can't handle the success? What happens if I start going all in and then I get burnt out? What happens if I start on this diet and then I miss out on life because I'm so strict on the diet that I can't continue? All of a sudden, bam, you hesitate, you quit, you sabotage the whole fucking thing before you start. So this is what you do. You just catch yourself in the moment. It's not that easy. Now here's the thing Self-sabotage is convincing, shows up like logical excuses. You believe your own self-sabotage. You believe it to your core. Now is not the right time. I should wait until I have more money. I'll start when I feel more confident. I'll run that course as soon as I learn more, get another certification. In all of those scenarios, confidence comes from action. It doesn't come from the other way around. So it's like we're making up bullshit excuses why we don't start. If you keep waiting until you feel ready, you will be waiting forever. So you just got to go all in. When you hear yourself making the excuse, you ask yourself is this a real reason or a comfortable lie?
Speaker 1:And what about when you procrastinate? What about when, like me, with my stats exam and university, where I was failing this stats class before I went into the final, I had no idea what I was doing, like I did not get stats at all and I took university calculus Like it wasn't the math. I just did not get it for some reason. The prof and I did not get along in my brain. I just couldn't understand the way he was explaining it to us. And so I was. I knew I was going to be frustrated, but bigger than that was. I felt like a failure and I felt really dumb because I couldn't get it and I thought everyone else was.
Speaker 1:So I procrastinated studying. I mean, I could have put in so much work, I could have studied so much harder than I did, but I felt like I wasn't getting it. If I studied and studied and studied and still didn't get it and then failed the class I, that would have meant my full ass effort wasn't good enough. I wasn't good enough. I wasn't smart enough, right?
Speaker 1:So what did I do? Self-sabotage. I waited until 2.30 in the morning. I mean I cleaned the toilets, I washed my bedding and I was living in an apartment at the time where I had to go two floors just to get to the laundry. I mean I created so many ridiculous tasks that I needed to do in order to procrastinate that I started studying at 2.30 in the fucking morning for that exam 2.30 in the morning and I had to write the exam at 8.30 in the morning. I think I studied from 2.30 to six and then I had a little bit of an app, got up, studied a little bit more, went, wrote the exam, somehow passed the class. Now, in retrospect I mean all those classes at the time they were on the bell curve. Likely everyone else was fucking failing the class too, and so it just boosted us all up. That's my guess Cause I don't know how I answered those questions. I mean, but was it more motivation that I needed? It wasn't. It was just awareness in that time.
Speaker 1:Every time you are procrastinating, just pause, notice it, call it out and then do the opposite of what your fear is telling you. If your brain says, don't post that because someone might judge you, post it anyway. If your brain says don't start that business because you might fail. Start small, start anyway. If you're feeling like I should be studying but I'm not doing it, catch yourself in that awareness. Catch yourself and recognize that you're just fearful of failing and what that number might mean to you.
Speaker 1:Your job isn't to be fearless, it's to act in spite of the fear and to go all in and know that as long as you try everything, as long as you try your best, as long as you do everything, doesn't matter what the result is. But you've given it your all. You've set yourself up to do the very, very best that you can and doing the best that you can, giving the very best effort. That success, no matter what the mark is, no matter what the result is, no matter what happens. So here's your homework catch yourself in the act, call you out your own BS and then do the thing anyway.
Speaker 1:Your dream life is on the other side. Of every excuse you've ever made, every procrastination tactic you've ever had, any made up bullshit excuse that you have, that you think, well, I can't do this because X, y and Z, every single excuse you've ever made. When you move those away, success is on the other side. You've got better things to do than doubt yourself. Now go do the fucking thing, and I'll see you tomorrow. Doubt yourself Now go do the fucking thing, and I'll see you tomorrow. Thank you so much for listening. I hope you've had some laughs, maybe some ideas, and that you've been inspired to take some type of action toward the life you've always dreamed of. If you feel so called, I would love it if you would share with your besties and leave a review down below. I look forward to bringing you on this journey and I will see you in the next episode.
