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My name is Sandra. I'm a business coach for women, a feng shui practitioner and a 2x national leadership award winner. In saying all of that though, I feel like I'm just a girl from Saskatchewan, who is put on this earth to inspire you to step into your power ... right fuckin' now.
I think that all too often, we convince ourselves that there is nothing we can do ... that our life "is what it is" and that ONE DAY we might be able to have the life that we dreamed of.
Uhmmmm NO.
That's bullshit.
Sorry ... but it's true. In a split second, you can choose differently. In THIS moment, you can take that courageous step toward the life you desire. It's my job, my gift and my obsession to help you share your sparkle with the world and I'm excited to get started.
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WTF did she just say?
From Insecurity to Empowerment: A New Perspective
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I'm so glad that you're here. You are listening to what the fuck did she just say with your host? That's me, sandra Priestly. I'm all about living our best life and finding our zone of brilliance and then removing the resistance so that we can go all in. I say random, crazy shit, which is why I called this podcast the way that I did, and I really hate long drawn out intros. So let's fucking go.
Speaker 1:Did you know that self-compassion is linked to greater resilience and success? I mean, obviously, if we shit on ourselves and we're all up in our thoughts, we're all up feeling like we're not good enough, we're not smart enough, we're not pretty enough, we're not thin enough, we're not risky enough, you know, if we think any negative thoughts about ourselves, of course we're not going to be as resilient and we're not going to achieve success because we're going to hold ourselves back, while at the same time, I know that the majority of us struggle with self-compassion and with feeling enough in some areas of our lives. I went to chat GPT and I asked what was the percentage of people who felt like they weren't good enough? And all of came back and said according to research, 62% of people struggle with feelings of inadequacy at some point and I thought swing and a miss. All of that is not. There's no fucking way it could be 62%, because that would suggest that 38% of the people do feel like they're good enough in all areas of their lives. There's just no fucking way. I don't believe that there's one person on this earth that feels like they're good enough in all areas, do you? I mean, am I that delusional, like? I just feel like we're all. We're all struggling, we're all working on feeling like we're good enough in some area of our life, right, anyway? So I kind of went down the rabbit hole on this and I was looking at you know, what do we really need to do? How can we shift this? And one of the things I thought was so good was this idea of just shifting what it means to us, because a lot of times we feel like we're not good enough in some area of our lives and so we feel like we're failing. But this quick shift in perspective makes all the difference.
Speaker 1:When you feel like you're not good enough, it isn't a sign that you're failing, it's a sign you care deeply about improving. Isn't that more powerful? This reminds me of something my son said to a young football player. So my son plays university football and he's been coaching pretty much since he started in grade nine, and there was a young football player he was talking to and he was experiencing anxiety and my son had said it's just a sign that you care and that just takes the pressure off, right, because we feel that anxiety and we feel like such, like we're just a fuck up, like we just feel like we're failing, right. But if we think okay, nerves are okay, it's a sign that we care, like if we weren't nervous about some of these things, then what are we even doing there, you know? So I started looking at what could we do. What are we even doing there? So I started looking at what could we do. What could we do? What is one simple thing that we could do every single day to sort of reprogram our brain so that we're not constantly defaulting to the negative of I'm not good enough in some avenue.
Speaker 1:And one of the things that I read about was called a proof list. Now, this is not revolutionary, because I've seen this so many times. I've done this myself. A proof list is almost like, um, a gratitude journal. But with regards to achievement, what's a proof list every evening before you go to bed? Every evening before you go to bed, write down one thing you did well that day, just one. It doesn't need to be 17. Just one signal, the thing that stands out the most in your mind. It can be a large thing or even a small thing Preferably the small things, like I didn't lose my shit today. That's a good one. That might be a big one. Or I went for a walk today even though it was cold out and I didn't want to go.
Speaker 1:What happens when we do this is it shifts our focus to wins. We almost get into this space of, like that book the Gap and the Gain. We start focusing on the gain. We stop focusing on where we are in comparison to where we want to be, which makes us feel like we're not good enough, and we start to focus on the small steps that we're taking towards our goal In the 90-day challenge that I'm doing called the work. Right now, this is what we're doing. We literally we have a goal that we're achieving. We've got three individual areas mindset, energy and action that we work on. We create our own goal. We create our own success formula, and so, within that formula. There's going to be things that we're going to do every day. So it's almost like check.
Speaker 1:Even if all I did was the mindset work today and I didn't do the energy and I didn't do the action, I still get to feel good because I did one fucking thing for mindset today. And then we look and we sort of neutralize the rest and we look at it every single day and go, okay, well, what did I do? Did I get them all done today? What did I do that allowed me to get them all done? For me, the I'm more successful throughout the day If I start early in the morning. If I get my journaling done, I get my affirmations done, I do my mindset and energy work already in the morning. By 10 o'clock in the morning, I'm good to fucking go. I start out my day really really, really well and I'll end the day with all of my M, e and a actions all done. I will have won the day for sure. But even just the simple fact of being able to look back every single day and go, oh yeah, okay, well, I did this today, that's good.
Speaker 1:Even just writing down one thing you did, it's a proof list that you're progressing. It shifts our focus to reprogram your brain to see what went right. You reprogram your brain to see what went right. It builds momentum and it's like a pattern interrupter for negative self-talk and bullshit. The more we start to write out the things that the wins that we had throughout the day, the more we start to feel like we are enough, the more we start to look at the accomplishments that we're making towards improvement.
Speaker 1:So keep it simple. Put it on a sticky note, put it on your phone you know there's that app that's like a journal app. That would be great. But or keep a regular journal. Put a sticky note on your mirror, I don't care. Do it every single day and then reread it every week. The more you write down, it's like a highlight reel of all of the accomplishments. Something that small can literally help you to start seeing yourself in a more positive light and increase your self-worth. When research says that self-compassion is linked to greater resilience and success, I think we owe it to ourselves to be a little bit fucking nicer to ourselves, don't you? Thank you so much for listening. I hope you've had some laughs, maybe some ideas, and that you've been inspired to take some type of action toward the life you've always dreamed of. If you feel so called, I would love it if you would share with your besties and leave a review down below. I look forward to bringing you along on this journey and I will see you in the next episode.
