Triggers ... I forgot how much they suck ... (but they can also be a signal for growth)

In this episode, I talk about how a conversation I was in triggered a whole WHACK of crap I was wanting to avoid feeling.

But when we feel that emotion, it shows us where we have work to do.  

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:06

I'm so glad that you're here. You are listening to what the fuck did she just say with your host? That's me, sandra Priestly. I'm all about living our best life and finding our zone of brilliance and then removing the resistance so that we can go all in. I say random, crazy shit, which is why I called this podcast the way that I did, and I really hate long drawn out intros, so let's fucking go. I had a conversation tonight, a lengthy conversation, about something that created a trigger for me, and it reminded me of how difficult those are, and I probably needed to be reminded so that I can help people through.

Speaker 1: 1:02

I think triggers get a bad name. We think that if we're triggered by a situation or something, that it shows weakness and something that's unhealed in us and the unhealed part is true, but they can be neutral signals it's just how we respond to them that determines their impact. So, even though we have the emotional response, when emotions are high, intelligence is low, right, and so one of the things that I try to do for myself and I try to do with my clients is work on feeling that emotion and then waiting. I am not always as good as I wish that I was, but feeling the emotion and sitting in it, and in a previous podcast I said that true emotion takes 90 seconds right, 90 seconds to remove, to move through that emotion. What happens is we feel it for a lot longer because our thoughts feed that fear. It's okay to feel that feeling. It's okay to feel that trigger. The triggers are something that helps show us where we need to grow. It helps to show us an area of our life or an area of our past that we're willing and ready to let go of.

Speaker 1: 2:41

Now, a lot of times we sit in this space where we think, well, I'm just going to avoid seeing this trigger, I'm going to avoid being around this trigger at all, and I think initially that might be. You know, removing yourself from the triggers is a good thing, but sometimes it keeps us stuck, sometimes it keeps us a victim to them. And when we can face that in a supportive environment, when we can face that in a safe environment, that's where the growth happens. A lot of times we think that because we're triggered, it's the external thing, it's the external situation, circumstance, item, event. That is the issue, when really the external event is just activating something that's already present within us and when we can feel that, when we can recognize that, when we can sit outside of that and say, okay, I am feeling an emotion here. What is this here to tell me? What can I learn from this? What can I heal from this? What am I ready to let go of? What can I do differently? That's where massive growth happens.

Speaker 1: 4:14

It is fucking scary as hell, to face it. We often want to run from those things. Right, we want to use some escape mechanism or some escape route. I see triggers as a gift now because for me, it shows me what I'm ready to release. We all have what Gabby Bernstein would call little T traumas, I believe, like little T and big T traumas, you know. And the more we feel that trigger, the more we feel that emotion and we decide that we're ready to understand it in a better way, work through it, the more power we have.

Speaker 1: 5:00

And whether you use a coach to help you through this or a therapist to help you through this or a journal to help you through this, or a therapist to help you through this or a journal to help you through this, know that it is normal to feel an emotion, to be triggered by something, feel an emotion and there's power in feeling it and then working through it. I hope you have an amazing day. See you tomorrow. And there's power in feeling it and then working through it. I hope you have an amazing day. See you tomorrow. Thank you so much for listening. I hope you've had some laughs, maybe some ideas, and that you've been inspired to take some type of action toward the life you've always dreamed of. If you feel so called, I would love it if you would share with your besties and leave a review down below. I look forward to bringing you along on this journey and I will see you in the next episode.