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I think that all too often, we convince ourselves that there is nothing we can do ... that our life "is what it is" and that ONE DAY we might be able to have the life that we dreamed of.
Uhmmmm NO.
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WTF did she just say?
Clear the Noise: Make Confident Decisions by Filtering Facts from Opinions✨
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I'm so glad that you're here, you are listening to what the fuck did she just say with your host? That's me, sandra Priestly. I'm all about living our best life and finding our zone of brilliance and then removing the resistance so that we can go all in. I say random, crazy shit, which is why I called this podcast the way that I did, and I really hate long drawn out intros, so let's fucking go.
Speaker 1:I met with a client this week and we had a really good conversation week, and we had a really good conversation that made her feel so much better by the time we were finished. She had to make a fairly significant decision with some considerable consequences one way or the other, and so she had come to me with everything that was sort of going on, so much mental noise, so much was in her head. So I told her to just lay it all out and we would sift through it, knowing that we were going to only make decisions based on fact, not on assumption, not on opinion, but on fact. Fact is observable, but on fact. Fact is observable, provable, neutral. It literally is something we can see, something we can prove, something that's on paper. And what is assumption or opinion is subjective, it's emotional, it's based on interpretation and sometimes it's based on the fact that we're relying on the person who told us the dang thing. A lot of times what happens is we convince ourselves that fact is what we believe to be true. Fact is what someone told us, the truth of what they knew, but it isn't. Fact is what you know for certain, that you can prove when you look at everything that's going on in your mind, all of that mental noise that's going on, all of the thoughts and all of the facts that you actually you think you have. I'm guaranteeing you there is way less than you think.
Speaker 1:We convince ourselves that a person that we trust has come to us with information, and that's fact. I'm going to tell you something. The only fact in that situation is that this person told you it. That's it. You don't know that it's true. You don't know that the person telling you didn't lie. You don't know that the person telling you didn't misinterpret. You don't know that the person telling you didn't lie. You don't know that the person telling you didn't misinterpret. You don't know that the person telling you didn't get wrong information. You have no idea. The fact of that is the person in front of you told you this bit of information, but the bit of information is not fact. Do you see the difference? I mean, I know you are because you're brilliant we had to filter out what she assumed to be true, what she assumed based on the past.
Speaker 1:You cannot act on assumption, you cannot act on opinion. When you make a decision, a significant decision, it should be based on. It should be because you've separated out all of the facts. You have the facts in front of you and then you can make an informed decision. Do I suggest that you look at all of those facts and then you listen to your intuition? Yes, 1000%.
Speaker 1:But your intuition doesn't include any emotional response to anything. Your intuition is not about emotion. Your intuition is not about what someone told you happened. Your intuition is not about well, I know what that look was that she gave that person. I know exactly what that meant. I know she was probably shit talking me, like all of that stuff.
Speaker 1:Just fucking toss it, because it is not fact. We create a whole fucking story in our minds about what we believe to be true, and we do that because we're trying to keep ourselves safe, but what happens is we fuck up every decision that we make when we are relying on opinion and assumption, and then we throw in some emotion, and then we throw in some emotion. So what we need to do is look at everything you know, sift out what is fact versus what is opinion, what is assumption, what is something that you've heard that you can't prove, and if you don't have enough facts, then I want you to go find more facts. That's it. Find as many facts as you can and then you make a decision. I've used this example numerous times in the last few months, it seems, but I want you to imagine a puzzle, and a puzzle is 100% the truth and each puzzle piece that you have is a fact All of the opinions and the assumptions and what someone else believes, what someone else thinks, what someone else. I mean that might as well be a Lego piece. It is not going to help you fix your puzzle. It's a Lego piece and, quite frankly, it's the ones that your kids left on the floor that you step on and then fucking swear in the middle of the night.
Speaker 1:Opinions, assumptions they increase our emotions, but they don't give us a clear picture of what's going on. It's just noise. Remove all of that and look at every single fact you have as a piece of the puzzle and then look at that and decide do I have enough pieces to have a clear vision of what is going on here? If you do, then you can make an informed opinion. If you do not, go find more facts. Here's what happens. When you can discern between the two Fact versus all the rest of stuff, you are clearer in decision making. Like we just said, we make decisions based on reality and not what if or worst case scenario. It reduces overthinking and it helps us focus on what actually needs our attention. It reduces anxiety.
Speaker 1:Assumptions are the thing that just comes with such emotional weight. Facts are neutral, but assumptions and opinions make you spin out of control. You have better relationships because misunderstandings often comes from assuming what someone else is thinking, what someone else is feeling, what someone else is meaning, what someone else is doing behind the scenes. I mean all of that is just bullshit. When we stick to the facts of what they actually said to you or what you actually witnessed them doing, everything shifts. We no longer assign motives to things, we don't jump to conclusions. We reduce the amount of drama we have in our lives and in our heads by thousands, percent that I just pulled out of my ass. The other thing that this does is it allows you to reclaim your power, because when we stop listening to other people's opinions on what we can do, what we should do, how we should handle this, what they believe to be true, we can just see well, that's what they believe to be true, that's their perspective and this is mine. That's it, but let's go back to the facts. But let's go back to the facts. Someone else's opinion is just a piece of Lego that you're stepping on. If we focus on facts, we stop wasting mental energy on shit that might not ever happen. We stop worrying.
Speaker 1:It's like decluttering your mind. All of a sudden, you had maybe 30 things that were swimming around in your brain and when you look at the facts, you might have four. What you need to decide is are those four facts, those four puzzle pieces, enough to give you a clear picture of what's going on? Those four puzzle pieces might be part of a six-piece puzzle. You might have very important facts that you know to be true, that you can make a decision on. Or you might have those four puzzle pieces and it's a 6,000-piece puzzle and in which case you can't make a decision on that. You need more evidence. When you can declutter like that, everything is simpler, lighter, more effective. So ask yourself what is the evidence before you jump to conclusion. What is the evidence? Decide, is this my opinion or is this an assumption? And if you're speaking to someone, I want you to ask these questions, ask clarifying questions.
Speaker 1:You know one of the things that I was noticing? The other day, client had come to me and she said that she was really disturbed because she had heard from someone else that there was a woman shit talking her. So we talked about this and I said okay, so do we know for fact? What do we know for fact? What we know for fact is that the person told my client that's it. The fact is, my client directly heard something from another person. We don't know a lot of other facts there. All we know is that she was told this, but the person that told her might have misinterpreted. The person that told her might have lied. The person that told her might have completely got a wrong person. The person that told her might have heard something out of context. The person that told her might have completely misread that story. The person that told her might have had an ulterior motive for telling her this thing.
Speaker 1:It is freeing to look at fact only, and when we can make a decision based on fact, it is unbelievably powerful. Now I'm going to give you a caveat here. There may be situations where you cannot get any more fact than you already have. In that case, you might have to compile as much circumstantial shit as you can to make a decision, because a decision has to be made. Do the best that you can clear your energy, try to intuitively and do the best that you possibly can, but when you can ask more clarifying questions, ask for fact as often as you possibly can.
Speaker 1:Ask those clarifying questions. Ask can I clear? Can I, can I clarify what you meant by that? I think that way too often we don't ask those fucking questions and then we're left assuming what the other person meant. Ask. It's a total game changer. Thank you so much for listening. I hope you've had some laughs, maybe some ideas, and that you've been inspired to take some type of action toward the life you've always dreamed of. If you feel so called, I would love it if you would share with your besties and leave a review down below. I look forward to bringing you along on this journey and I will see you in the next episode.
